So you are an INFJ? Congrats! Seriously! As an INFJ myself I know that sometimes it can feel more like a curse than a blessing. We are so rare that it’s lonely but we are also so unique and that my friend is awesome!
I totally believe there is power in knowledge, the more you know the better. Which is why I am here sharing some tips to help you live your best life as an INFJ personality.
Set boundaries– I think that as INFJ’s we really go out of our way to help everyone around us because that’s who we are but this means we extend ourselves too much. Boundaries with relationships, work and yourself are vital.
Follow your purpose– Us INFJ’s usually can’t be content in life doing something that we don’t find fulfilling. We want to know that we are making a difference and following our passion/purpose.
Declutter regularly. Seriously. We need an environment that is organized and clutter free. We just can’t handle it any other way. Add this into your monthly routines (especially if you have kiddos!) and you will feel so much better.
Find someone who understands you. Just one person. Relationships can be hard for us because we often feel like outsiders and that just gets lonely. Having one person who gets you or does their best too, is key.
Pick your relationships carefully. The people you surround yourself with impact your life more than the average person.
Protect your time. Say no. Stop doing things because you feel like you have to do them. Stop overbooking your life. Your time is your energy and it needs to be protected.
Set boundaries for yourself with social media. Social media can be a tough one for us as we, again, draw our energy from people and things. This includes what we consume on social media and sometimes all the negative is just too much!
Take care of yourself first and foremost. We know that we are the worst at this. It’s just how it is. It is natural for us to tend to everyone else first but that leaves nothing for us.
Put time for yourself in your calendar.
Understand that there are a lot of people in this world who won’t understand you– and that’s okay.
Learn to trust your intuition. It truly is your best gift.
Do not sacrifice your peace for others.
Understand that us INFJ’s set impossibly high standards. Really pay attention to when this starts to get you in trouble.
Don’t cut out extroverts just because it’s hard to be around them sometimes. Because they can be excellent friends!
Learn to be able to realize when you get to the point where you’ve been alone for too long. We tend to retreat and get stuck there. Be able to tell when you need social interaction and reach out.
Try your best to set realistic exceptions. Seriously.
Journal– let those feelings out.
Learn to counter negative thoughts with positive ones.
Learn what triggers you and have a plan so you can better deal.
Really learn what you want out of life– what pushes you to move forward?
Embrace your uniqueness.
Confront your past and move on. Don’t get trapped there.
Talk therapy can be your best friend!
Find what replenishes you. Take care of yourself.
Learn to say, “No, thank you” and be okay saying it.
Don’t allow others to drain you. If someone in your life is toxic they don’t deserve your time or your energy.
Don’t assume everyone has a heart like you. Because not everyone does.
Learn to pause when something is too intense. Take a step back and really think it through.
Understand that just because someone says something in a bad tone or is short with you that doesn’t mean that they are upset with you or that you did something wrong.
Stop assuming people don’t like you or you aren’t enough– because you are.
Surround yourself with people who value you.
Just ask if you think someone is upset with you– otherwise you will dwell on it forever.
Accept that we are all not perfect and don’t be offended by criticism.
And while you are at it- understand that not everyone is goal-driven or a dreamer and that’s okay. Don’t push your personality type onto someone else.
Write- a lot. Creative writing, journaling. Whatever you need to do to get those thoughts and feelings out of your head.
Get outside– there is something about nature that really does something for us INFJ’s.
And lastly mama- learn to accept yourself. You are who you are. Don’t waste your days spent inside your own head tormenting yourself.
I truly hope these tips help you live a life full of fulfillment and joy- just as you deserve. But most importantly I hope you embrace who you are, because you are amazing.